WARNING TO CHRISTIAN HUSBANDS: If Her Love Is Cold And She Wants To Leave ...
This 'Holy Headship' Secret From 1st Peter 3:7 Can Unblock Your Prayers And Restore Your Marriage To God's Divine Design
Creating The Unshakeable Biblical Bond He Always Intended
From The Desk Of Father Don Purdum
RE: Saving Your Marriage
If she's already halfway out the door, and divorce has already come up (or worse, is about to be filed) ...
If every day feels like the spiritual warfare "doubles down" and brings you to your knees ...
If your desperate prayers for restoration are hitting an invisible wall...
Then what God revealed to me about this verse isn't just about saving your marriage... it's about preventing Satan from destroying it forever.
After all, most men don't realize they have about 6 weeks at most (from the time she mentions divorce) to save their marriages.
This isn't just another piece of marriage advice ...
Because buried in this 'familiar' passage of 1st Peter 3:7 lies a revelation so powerful, but most pastors miss it completely...
Because if you deeply understand its secrets, you'll unlock the "master key" to saving your marriage ...
And restoring it to God's divine design.
Chances are, you've studied this verse before. I certainly had. But like 90% of Christians today, I completely missed its true meaning in the original Greek text.
This misunderstanding isn't just causing confusion...
It's creating an opening for Satan and his forces of evil to systematically destroy Christian marriages.
And the most devastating part?
The very things most Christian husbands are doing to save their marriages - the increased prayers, the spiritual leadership, even the marriage counseling - might actually be making things worse.
Not because these aren't godly actions...
But because there's a critical spiritual principle we've all missed.
When I finally understood what this verse was really saying in its original language...
I realized why so many godly men - men who truly love the Lord, who lead their families in prayer, who genuinely want to save their marriages keep hitting an invisible wall
You see, something happens in the spiritual realm when we misunderstand this Scripture...
Something that explains why your wife pulls away when you try harder to lead...
Why your earnest prayers seem to "fall on deaf ears"...
And why even the most sincere attempts to restore your marriage often make things worse ...
Here's the secret that changed everything for me ...
It All Starts With What 1st Peter 3:7 Says ...
"Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered."
I used to think that being a weaker vessel means I just need to "lead harder" ...
And that I need to "man up" ...
And "pray with her more" ...
Yet I watched as virtually every husband who took that approach ended in divorce even quicker.
It didn't just "not work" - it back fired entirely.
I knew for a fact that wasn't God's design ...
The Lord God is the God of restoration and hope. His way leads to eternal life and redemption.
Not disaster and ruin.
So there must have been something I missed ...
That's when I studied 1st Peter's native language - Greek and found that the word for "weaker" (asthenestero) doesn't mean "inferior" at all...
It means "more valuable and requiring special care" - like a priceless crystal vase compared to a steel cup.
1st Peter is really painting a beautiful picture of your wife as a beautiful work of art whose value is far beyond rubies ...
And requires special care.
But here's what's most shocking:
When you fail to honor your wife as the beautiful work of are she is, and don't give her that special and delicate care ...
Your prayers are blocked. Not hers - yours
It's as if God is saying "you're failing to treat the beautiful work of art that I've given you properly - and I want to make sure you honor her."
Think about what that really means...
Every desperate prayer you've whispered in the dark... (While that priceless vessel sits neglected...)
Every fasting session dedicated to saving your marriage... (While treating her like common clay...)
Every counseling session you've faithfully attended... (Without understanding God's true design...)
What if they're not just failing to help?
What if, because of this one critical misunderstanding of how to honor God's masterpiece, you're actually creating an opening for the enemy's forces to attack your marriage?
Because there's a spiritual principle at work here that goes far deeper than most pastors or counselors realize...
I’m Father Don Purdum - A Pastor And Husband Of Over 25 Years - And I’m Here To Show You The Truth About What’s Happening In The Spiritual Realm (And What’s Really Hurting Your Marriage)
Pictured Above: Father Don Purdum
Through intense prayer and fasting, God revealed something that changed everything:
The real reason your increased prayers and spiritual leadership might actually be pushing her further away has everything to do with what I call "Holy Headship" ...
And why it's the devastating mistake 91% of Christian husbands make when trying to save their marriage...
And most importantly - the biblical key to stopping this attack before it's too late.
But I have to warn you...
Has Your Marriage Reached Any Of These Critical Warning Signs?
→ Your wife's "I love you" feels empty... like she's just going through the motions...
→ The spiritual connection you once shared has faded into awkward silence...
→ She's finding more comfort in her 'support group' than in your leadership...
→ The words "I love you but I'm not in love with you" have entered your home...
→ Or worst of all... she's mentioned divorce, even in passing...
If you're nodding your head, I need you to understand two critical truths:
Truth #1: This crisis isn't random. There's a specific reason your marriage has reached this point - and it's probably not what your pastor or Christian counselor told you.
It's direct spiritual warfare. The enemy has found a way to block your prayers through misunderstanding God's design for headship.
Truth #2: The very things you're doing to save your marriage might actually be making things worse. Not on purpose, of course.
But we're going to explore what's happening right now in your marriage ...
And how to not just save your marriage, but make it truly thrive.
Let me explain...
What No One Tells Christian Husbands About Marriage Breakdowns
You see, there's a hidden pattern I've discovered after 20 years of ministry.
A pattern that explains why so many godly men - men who love the Lord, lead their families in prayer, and genuinely try to be good husbands - suddenly find their marriages crumbling.
It usually follows three predictable stages:
Stage 1: The Spiritual Leadership Trap
You notice small changes in your wife's behavior.
Maybe she seems less enthusiastic about church.
Or family devotions feel forced.
Your natural response, as a godly husband, is to "lead harder" and brute force it - but accidentally dishonoring her in the process.
When that happens, remember what 1st Peter says ...
"Husbands, live with your wives in understanding ways, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel... so that your prayers may not be hindered."
Then something strange happens...Instead of drawing her closer, she pulls away even more.
Instead of "Holy Headship" we can tend to become "forced headship" which backfires more than it helps - because it comes from a place of control, panic, anxiety, and fear.
But 1st John 4:18 states "There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love."
This "forced headship" is actually a sneaky lie whispered to us by the demons - they want to twist and distort God's word.
And they want to destroy your marriage.
So they'll do whatever it takes to replace "Holy Headship" with this fake counterfeit "forced headship" that drives her away ... without you knowing what's really happening (until now)
Stage 2: The Distance Spiral
Now you're both walking on eggshells.
Every conversation feels like navigating a minefield.
You try to be more spiritual, more loving, more everything...But it's like speaking a language she can't hear anymore.
That growing rift suddenly turns into a great divide that no one knows how to cross.
Stage 3: The Breaking Point
This is where those devastating words start echoing through your home:
"I love you but..."
"I need space..."
"I don't know if I can do this anymore..."
"Are we really meant to be?"
And here's what makes this moment truly devastating...
Every time you hear these words, your natural response as a Christian husband is to double down on what you've been taught:
Pray more intensely.
Lead more firmly.
Try harder to be spiritual.
But what if these "solutions" are actually part of the enemy's plan?
Because here's what no one tells you:
The more you focus on being a "better spiritual leader" without understanding God's true design for headship...'
The more you actually block His power from flowing through your marriage.
This is exactly how the enemy works - taking good intentions and twisting them into weapons against your family.
Because your marriage isn't just facing normal problems...
It's under direct spiritual attack.
Remember the Garden of Eden? Before Sin Entered The World?
Adam and Eve walked in perfect unity with God.
Their relationship wasn't built on Adam trying to 'lead better' or Eve trying to 'submit more.'
It was built on something far more fundamental:
Complete transparency.
Total trust.
True spiritual intimacy with each other and God.
And a powerful connection to the Lord Jesus Christ - completely protected from all the fangs of the enemy.
When they no longer listened to the Lord and rebelled, they didn't just fall ...
They sent their marriage and the entire world into rebellion in chaos.
There's a powerful key in there to restoration if you look closely.
I meditated on that one day, and prayerfully asked the Lord why so many marriages are falling apart.
That's When God Showed Me What's Really Happening In Most Christian Marriages Today
We've gotten so focused on the roles (being a 'good spiritual leader' or a 'submissive wife')...
That we've made it all about “us” and in doing so, made ourselves our own little “gods” ...
Trusting in ourselves and falling victim to forces in the spiritual realm.
This is when our "Holy Headship" is replaced with ego ...
Then we think marriage restoration is just about the actions we take …
When it’s more important to consider our heart posture towards our spouse and the Lord.
Think about it:
→ When's the last time you and your wife really prayed together and sought the will of the Lord? Not the polite 'bless this food' prayers... but the kind where you both pour out your hearts to the Lord?
→ When did the deep conversations about faith become surface-level discussions about church activities?
→ How long has it been since you felt truly connected - not just as husband and wife, but as a family unit in Christ?
Here's the devastating truth:
Most Christian Husbands Are Trying To Lead
Someone They've Lost Connection With - And Satan Uses That To Tear Families Apart
It's like trying to drive a car with no engine.
You can turn the steering wheel all you want...
But without that core power source, you're not going anywhere.
Unfortunately, the enemy has put a direct “spiritual block” between you and your spouse in a sinister attempt to split you up.
This Is Why Nothing Has Worked So Far...
• The marriage books tell you to 'lead better'... but you can't lead someone who's emotionally checked out
• The counselors tell you to 'communicate more'... But words feel empty without true connection
• Your pastor tells you to 'pray harder'... but individual prayers can't fix a broken spiritual bond
But here's the hope-filled truth...
Just as God restored Job's life doubly after his trials, He can restore your marriage to greater heights than ever before.
The key?
Learning how to rebuild that divine connection first... before trying to be a 'better leader.'
This is exactly what my powerful Miracle Marriage Method reveals…
It’s Time To Finally Reveal The Hidden Battle You Can't See (But Your Marriage Feels Every Day)
Here's what most marriage counselors won't tell you:
Your marriage isn't just struggling with communication issues or emotional distance...
It's under direct spiritual attack.
Think about it:
Why do those destructive thoughts seem to come out of nowhere?
"She'll never change..."
"Maybe we're just not meant to be..."
"I should just give up..."
Where Do Those Sudden Waves Of Hopelessness Really Come From?
The ones that hit at 3 AM…
Making you question everything…
Even your faith...
The Bible warns us clearly in Ephesians 6:12: 'For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world...'
Your marriage isn't just having 'normal problems.'
It's being targeted.
Why?
Because the enemy knows something you might have forgotten:
A Christ-centered marriage is one of the most powerful weapons in God's kingdom.
• It reflects Christ's love for His church
• It raises godly children who impact generations
• It stands as a living testimony of God's power to restore and heal
No wonder the attacks feel so intense...
The Physical World Reflects The Spiritual Battle
Those arguments that explode out of nowhere?
That sudden emotional distance?
The way small issues become huge conflicts?
These aren't just 'marriage problems.'
Pictured Above: Father Don And His Wife Nicole Purdum
They're Manifestations Of The Spiritual War Being Waged Over Your Family's Destiny.
And this isn’t just about your marriage anymore …
It’s about your immortal soul - and your spouse's soul too.
But here's the game-changing truth:
When you understand how to bring your marriage under the full authority of Jesus Christ...
When you learn to recognize and counter these spiritual attacks...
When you discover how to engage the power of the Holy Spirit in your relationship...
Everything changes.
Your marriage naturally heals ...
And your whole life feels like it has a powerful purpose and meaning.
Because here's what most Christian husbands don't realize:
The spiritual realm doesn't just influence your marriage…
It directly dictates every aspect of it.
This Is Why I Created The Miracle Marriage Method - A Brand New Way To Save Marriages From The Brink Of Divorce
It starts with something radical.
We address the spiritual battle first.
Before working on communication…
Before trying to rebuild intimacy…
Before attempting to restore leadership...
We show you how to:
→ Identify and break the specific spiritual attacks targeting your marriage
→ Protect your wife's heart from the enemy's most effective lies
→ Replace destructive thought patterns with divine truth
→ Engage the power of the Holy Spirit in your relationship
→ Build a spiritual shield around your marriage that actually works...
Because once the spiritual foundation is restored under Christ's authority...
The 3D "real world" changes naturally follow.
This isn't a theory. I've watched it happen countless times…
Let Me Show You What's Possible When You Apply These Biblical Principles...
Imagine waking up 30-60 days from now:
•That knot in your stomach when you think about your marriage? Gone.
• Those 3 AM panic attacks about divorce? Replaced with peaceful sleep.
• The awkward silence between you and your wife? Transformed into deep, meaningful connection.
But more importantly...
Imagine Your Marriage Becoming A Powerful Testimony Of God's Restoration Power
→ Your wife looking at you with that same admiration she had when dating
→ Your children witnessing what a Christ-centered marriage truly looks like
→ Your church community asking what changed in your relationship
→ Natural intimacy flowing from genuine spiritual connection
→ God's presence filling every aspect of your marriage
This isn't just wishful thinking.
I've watched God restore marriages that seemed completely hopeless:
• Couples who were days away from divorce
• Wives who had already moved out
• Situations where infidelity had shattered trust
• Marriages dead for decades suddenly revived
Because here's the truth - when you align your marriage with God's divine design…
When you learn to fight the real enemy (not each other)...
When you apply these biblical principles consistently…Restoration becomes very easy.
Remember what God says in Joel 2:25? 'I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten.'
That’s his heart for you and your marriage.
Here's How The Miracle Marriage Method Makes This Transformation Possible...
God designed marriage to be built on three unshakeable pillars:
1 - Spiritual Unity
Praying together with genuine connection, not just routine rituals.
2 - Emotional Intimacy
Deep, meaningful conversations that bring you closer to each other and to Christ.
3 - Physical Closeness
Natural passion that flows from true spiritual and emotional connection.
When these pillars are strong and protected under Christ's authority, everything changes...
But here's the critical truth most marriage programs miss:
These pillars must be built in the right order.
You can't skip to physical intimacy without spiritual unity…
You can't force emotional connection without spiritual foundation…
You can't lead effectively without divine guidance...
This Is Why The Miracle Marriage Method Follows God's Divine Blueprint - The Same Pattern Revealed In Scripture
Step 1 - SURRENDER: Put Christ First (Proverbs 3:5-6)
Make Jesus Christ the true Lord of your life - not just in word, but in deed. When this happens, you'll experience radical change from the inside out.
Step 2 - TRANSFORM: Embrace Holy Headship (Ephesians 5:25)
Discover what godly leadership really means (hint: it's not what most churches teach). Your wife will naturally respond to this transformation.
Step 3 - REBUILD: Restore Trust Through Action (1 Peter 3:7)
Learn the biblical way to rebuild broken trust and emotional connection - without endless conversations or therapy sessions.
Step 4 - RECONNECT: Restore True Intimacy (Song of Solomon 2:16)
This is where we really rebuild that closeness you've always wanted - so you can truly have that deep connection at every single level.
This Is The Exact Same Process That Shane W. Used To Restore His Marriage And Win His Wife Back
When Shane first came to me, his marriage was hanging by a thread. His wife wouldn't even look him in the eyes anymore, let alone have a real conversation...
She was planning on leaving him - and was already talking with a lawyer.
Like so many Christian husbands, he'd tried everything - more prayer, more church, more 'leading'... but nothing worked.
But after going through our biblical restoration process and learning true 'Holy Headship', something miraculous happened...
Day by day, we watched his wife's heart slowly turn back to him.
The walls started coming down.
The coldness melted away.
And real connection returned.
Not too long after working together, Shane told me something that gave me chills:
'Father Don, I have to tell you... this is the happiest I've ever been in my marriage. I honestly didn't think this was possible anymore. My wife and I prayed together last night for the first time in months.'
But that's the power of God's mercy and grace at work when we align with His divine design...
It's not just Shane ...
So far hundreds of husbands have gone through the process and so many countless marriages have been restored.
Men Like Don Who Have Gone From "Wondering If She'll Ever Love Me" To "Having The Marriage I Always Wanted"
Don came to me asking for mercy and grace for his marriage ...
And God brought it!
Just three short weeks into working together, Don told me he and his wife felt like "newlyweds again" ...
That was so wonderful to hear because she had already brought up "divorce" ...
But secretly deep down wanted to restore the marriage.
And here's the beautiful truth: If God can restore Shane and Don's marriages...
If He can turn cold hearts warm again...
If He can rebuild trust from complete brokenness...
Then imagine what He can do in YOUR marriage when you apply these same biblical principles...
Just Like Shane And Don- When You Go Through My Method You'll Experience The Joy Of Becoming "One Flesh" At Every Level - Spiritually, Emotionally, And Physically
This isn't just theory. I've watched this exact process transform marriages that seemed completely hopeless:
→ Couples who were days away from divorce
→ Marriages broken by years of emotional distance
→ Relationships devastated by betrayal
→ Partners who had completely given up hope.
Because when you follow God's design…
When you understand the spiritual battle…
When you build these pillars in the right order...Restoration becomes possible again.
But I Need To Be Clear About Something...
Remember what the Bible tells us about spiritual warfare?
The enemy doesn't want your marriage restored.
He doesn't want your family united in Christ.
He doesn't want your testimony of God's restoration power.
That's why he'll do anything to delay your action..."Maybe things will get better on their own..."
"I'll start working on this next week..."
"We can't afford another marriage program..."
But research shows a devastating truth:
When a wife mentions divorce, you typically have less than 6 weeks before her heart completely hardens.
That's why I made a decision that might sound crazy...
I Want To Remove EVERY Possible Barrier Between You And God's Plan For Your Marriage
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And honestly?
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But here's why I set the price this low:
This isn't about money for me.
This is about ETERNAL consequences.
Think about it:
What's the price tag on your children's faith journey?
What's the cost of your wife's soul?
What's the value of preventing generational curses from destroying your family's legacy?
Those questions don't have dollar amounts.
They're priceless.
That's exactly why I'm practically GIVING this away at $27...
Because I refuse to let MONEY be the reason another Christian marriage crumbles.
I refuse to let Satan use "financial hesitation" as his weapon.
I refuse to watch another family torn apart because a husband "needed to think about the investment."
This price isn't just low...
It's intentionally designed to remove EVERY possible excuse the enemy might whisper in your ear.
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Remember what the Bible says in Philippians 1:6:
"Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ"
I'm that confident God will use this to transform your marriage.
But I Need To Be Completely Honest With You...
There's a reason you're reading these words right now.
And it's not random.
Just like God gave Noah a specific window to enter the ark...
Just like He set an appointed time for Moses to lead His people from Egypt...
Just like Jesus had His divine moment in Gethsemane...
THIS is your moment of divine appointment.
But remember what Jesus said in John 10:10:
"The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy..."
Right now, Satan is actively working to destroy your marriage...
Every minute you hesitate... every day you wait... every moment you let doubt creep in...
Is another victory for the enemy.
Another crack in your foundation.
Another seed of discord planted.
Another step toward destruction.
This isn't just about saving your marriage anymore.
Studies show 76% of children from broken homes struggle with their relationship with God.
Divorce creates generational curses that echo for decades.
Satan knows united Christian marriages are his greatest threat...
And how many wounded spouses have left the church entirely?
The enemy is counting on you to "think about it."
To "wait until later."
To "try fixing it yourself first."
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